In order to make a relationship last, you really have to flow with a person as they change. Give them space. My friend always told me about his grandfather who was with his wife for 60 years before she passed. His grandfather said that through all that time, his wife changed so much it felt like he had been with 8 different people by the end. But he said the secret to making it last was that through all those changes, he never suffocated his wife with his own idea of who he expected her to be. Rather he loved, fully, every new woman she became.
I had to explain to a 16 year old girl yesterday why 21+ year old men target minors to have dating/sexual relationships with. and why she shouldn’t think it’s normal, healthy behavior.
she threw the phrases “age ain’t nothing but a number” and “love is love” out to me, and I had to deconstruct and redefine both those phrases to her so she better understands what they really mean.
with that being said, let’s be mindful of what we say to the youth because as “mature for their age” as they seem, they still don’t possess the full cognitive capability to assess everything they take in.
